Me, Myself & I,  Relationships

From self-assurance to God-Assurance

From Self-Confidence to God-Confidence

A Reflection on Identity, Value, and True Assurance

Confidence—I had it.
As far back as I can remember, I was sure of myself. I knew I was smart enough to succeed at anything I pursued. I had talents I was proud of. I had the ability to communicate clearly and persuade with ease.

But then, everything changed.


When Self-Confidence Fades

Suddenly, I couldn’t recognize myself.

My academic degrees, once a source of pride, seemed worthless. Speaking clearly became a struggle. My thoughts felt jumbled. Building an argument became a nightmare.

I stopped taking initiative. I became afraid—afraid of failure, afraid of trying. The bold, capable version of me… was gone.

I didn’t understand what had happened, but I knew what I felt: Fear.

Fear was the first fruit of this loss. I felt paralyzed. Like I had fallen into a bottomless pit—unable to climb out, no matter how hard I tried.


The Silent Shift: Trusting in Myself

Looking back, I now realize something: My confidence wasn’t just confidence—it was self-reliance.

Yes, I was a child of God. But deep down, my sense of worth was tied to my achievements. I felt secure when I performed well. I felt valuable when I succeeded. I felt strong when I had something to show.

But all of that became a shaky foundation.

“This is what the Lord says: Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the Lord.”
— Jeremiah 17:5 (NIV)

When that foundation crumbled, so did my identity.


Rediscovering True Confidence

I had to unlearn my idea of worth. And re-learn who I was through the lens of God’s truth. Here’s what I found:

The Lie I Believed God’s Truth Reference
“I’m not wise.” God gives wisdom. Proverbs 2:6; James 3:17
“It’s too late for me.” God wants to give me a future. 2 Peter 3:9; Romans 8:18
“I’m fearful.” God is with me—I don’t have to be afraid. Isaiah 43:1
“I’m not capable.” My sufficiency is from God. 2 Corinthians 3:5
“I have no value.” I was bought at a price—God gave His Son for me. 1 Corinthians 6:20; John 3:16
“I’m not useful.” I am a member of Christ’s body with a role. 1 Corinthians 12:20–27
“I’m exhausted.” God gives strength to the weary. Isaiah 40:29

A thought for today:
Confidence in self may crumble—but confidence in Christ will carry you through.

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